Your beliefs become your thoughts,
Your thoughts become your words,
Your words become your actions,
Your actions become your habits,
Your habits become your values,
Your values become your destiny.” -Mahatma Gandhi
Unfortunately, I also tend to question things, be skeptical, and consider all possibilities – positive and negative. Call it my science training.
So, for the last week, I tried really hard to only think positive. And I came to the following conclusions:
- It takes practice. I’m so used to thinking certain negative thoughts: My thighs look huge in this dress. I am not comfortable in large crowds. I like to sleep in. These types of negative thoughts are automatic, but even worse, they speak to my identity in some way: I have large thighs for my size. I’m not good in crowds. I’m not a morning person. When I tried to think positive all week, it made me realize that not only are these beliefs not working for me, but also that I won’t allow myself to be defined by them any longer.
- There’s really no reason to be afraid of 99% of the things that we tend to be fearful of – speaking in public, saying something stupid, wearing a bad dress, etc. While I wouldn’t advocate walking down a dark alley in a crime-laden neighborhood in the middle of the night, there aren’t that many actual valid concerns to be plaguing your mind. Most of the negative thoughts I had this week were either self-degrading or fearful, but very few of them were grounded in truth – and none of them were things I couldn’t do something about. And when I realized that, I felt empowered.
- When you think more positive, you yield better results. It sounds cliché, but it’s true. My rational side sees it this way: Most interactions or projects begin as neither negative or positive. They just are. But whenever you go into something believing in it, looking for amazing possibilities, and with the right attitude, you tend to find what you seek. Plus, for whatever reason, most people are drawn to upbeat, positive people – and no one gets anywhere alone.
So, bottom line: Actively thinking positive for a week was definitely a step in the right direction. My skeptical side was concerned that such a campaign would detract from seeing key issues or problems emerging in my personal and professional life – but, truth be told, thinking positive didn’t actually stop negative things from popping up. But a simple “I can get through this, I can get through anything” type of mantra sure helped navigate through any small disagreements or glitches that emerged – and also made me see just how small they are in the grand scheme of things.
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