One of my favorite things about being a woman in my 30’s in this day and age is the level of straight-up Real Talk you’re allowed to have about life, especially common stressors.
At first, the holidays this year seemed like there was more than ever. There were parties for my company, my husband’s company, four other holiday-themed parties we were invited to, and three dinners. There was cooking for Christmas Eve, cooking for Christmas Day. And then there were presents: Not only my immediate family, but my staff members, plus some of my friends.
And then, I don’t know, maybe it was Gabrielle Bernstein, always telling me to meditate and listen to my inner voice. Maybe it was Louise Hay, always telling me to “learn to love myself first.” Maybe it was Allyn Lewis, a kickass entrepreneur whose #LessStressMoreShine holiday campaign has been a source of inspiration for me…
Regardless of what it was, the holidays this year provided a special lesson to me: It’s not about perfection. It’s not about being the best. It’s not even about having things look and feel a certain way, unless that’s important to you.
It’s just about being present; that trite and overused phrase that somehow still has meaning. It’s about showing up for the people you love. It’s about staying calm enough to truly connect and honor few traditions that you find to be really, truly amazing or meaningful or both.
When we let ourselves think it’s about looking or appearing a certain way to impress others, that’s all ego. It’s not about being so frazzled and stressed from getting the presents wrapped and egg nog made and dinner on the stove and blah blah blah that you can’t enjoy anything or connect with anyone.
I finally get that.
Now this is what my month looks like (sorry, honey): The party for my company has been moved to January. My husband’s company party. One other holiday-themed party we were invited to. Three family dinners. No cooking for Christmas Eve, no cooking for Christmas Day. (Chinese restaurant this year, for the win!) And the presents? Amazon.com, delivered right to my home, and a lot of gift bags to save me from wrapping.
Ah, bliss. And, truth be told, I’m actually looking forward to the few events that I have left to go to.
Happy Holidays, my dear reader. Remember, no one wants you to be miserable. It serves no one. Go ahead and be a little selfish this holiday season. Love yourself, value your time, and really prize and treasure the events and traditions you choose to honor. I, for one, have been so helped by this.
- Dr. Leslie Baumann, M.D. teaches you the 4 types of rosacea — and how to manage the symptoms
- Dr. Vonda Wright, M.D. gives her best anti-aging tips
- SkinBetter Science shows you the science behind peptides in skin care
- AminoGenesis has must-have skincare tips for runners and other athletes
- Fulom Skin tells you what free radicals are in skincare — and how to use them